Jessica Valentine

espeonchan: Quick vent comic. So my guy friends like to play...

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:05:22 +0930

Quick vent comic.

So my guy friends like to play devil’s advocate a lot.Which isn’t a bad thing, lots of people do it. It’s often an important aspect of discussion of heavy subjects to gain a fuller perspective. But more often than not it can boil down to a lot of statements that invalidate the experiences I’ve had as a woman. I don’t want to disrespect their views and when I argue I feel like I’m not doing anything but be the whiny complaining feminist trope they so abhor.

So usually I get upset by the long paragraphs about why the sexism I’ve experienced is justified/acceptable/reasonable and I hate it because it makes me look like a child. I try to hide it, especially when it’s not in person discussions. I don’t want to be the person who cries in an argument, let alone look like one who cries to win one.

I understand that they just want to broaden my perspective but I also wish they’d be more open to listening to mine. I don’t know what it’s like to be a man and they don’t know what it’s like to be a woman. I tell my friends I’m an advocate for male rape and abuse victims and that I care just as much about discrimination against males as I do against women, that lots of feminists like me do. But it gets exhausting when the only response this garners is “Yeah, but SOME feminists…”

It’s a tiring endeavor. I’m reluctant to post this because it makes me look like a baby but I really don’t like being so emotionally invested in a basic debate. I feel like there’s a line between a mature discussion and “yeah but women ARE like this and women DESERVE this” when I’ve been told such things my whole life.

Also yes my nose does randomly disappear and reappear from the void.

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Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:03:20 +0930

“Sauron has yet to reveal his deadliest servant. The one who...

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 13:55:55 +0930

“Sauron has yet to reveal his deadliest servant. The one who would lead Mordor’s armies in war. The one they say no living man can kill: the Witch-King of Angmar.”

men get into something not aimed at their gender: get special titles like "brony." recognition by creators. heralded for defying gender appeal. get documentary.

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 13:42:30 +0930

men get into something not aimed at their gender: get special titles like "brony." recognition by creators. heralded for defying gender appeal. get documentary.
women get into something not aimed at their gender: not real fans. probably secret friend zone warriors deadset on erasing men from the human race. get insulting demeaning memes and sexual harassment.